presents.

it's only noon here but i am really excited.
i just bought the most exciting birthday present for my husband.
im so excited that i wanna tell him. but the excitement would disappear as soon as i tell him and his birthday is not til 7th July.

without getting all mushy and cheesy... ive been reading the five love languages.
*words of affirmation
*qulity time
*gifts
*acts of service
*physical touch

it's interesting how we actually do love in different ways. the book is full of comparisons and actual marriage scenarios where this is lifted.
he (gary chapman) talks about how everyone has an emotional lovetank. sounds dorky i know.
but in order for us to feel loved and cared for and feel good our lovetank needs to be full.
if your love language is acts of service then your partner can say they love you all they want but your love tank will not begin to fill until they do something for you. and if your partners love language is words of affirmation you can hug and kiss them and do all the dishes but their lovetank will still be empty.
the author encourages you to find out your own love language and to find out the love language of your spouse.

it's interesting. you need to love your spouse in a way that they feel loved, not in a way that makes you feel like you're showing them love. cause you can be showing them love all you want but nothing happens until they can receive it and understand that that's what you are doing.
and if your spouse has a love language that you dont speak naturally you need to become bilingual. you need to learn their love language and speak it.

and i thought freddy just needed to learn swedish and me english..